An evening to savor
It’s the little things. The small victories. Going out to a favorite restaurant wIth your love, seeing three staff you’ve known for years and not a single batted eye, looking away, or anything. Just accepting you for who you are and shooting the breeze. After days when people look at you askew, it is affirming when you are just accepted as who you are 🩷🩷🩷
Finished reading: Devour Me, Again The Poems of Bambi Lake by Bambi Lake 📚 🏳️⚧️
A good read. Miss my poetry books! Loved “I”, “Baba”, and “Beanstalk”, the last one was very powerful. I also really liked “You Don’t Love Me So I’m Ugly, And I’m Going To Kill Myself, And It’s All Your Fault!!”
A poem in my new collection talks about aging as a trans person, especially if memory issues arise. Who will protect our identity? Who will let us have respect when we can’t control it? It’s something I think about more and more.
Watched: Phantasm: Ravager 🍿
“Dawn. Dawn. Her name is Dawn” 🩷🩷🩷
Multiple states and low to high end places and never an askew glance from staff. Ever. Sure, other patrons might have stared funny at me or commented or worse, but never staff. Owners, bartenders, and servers would come by, say hi and stay 10 minutes or more talking, even if we weren’t their tables!
Tonight, place we’ve been going to for 20+ years, where owner would stop by and chat every visit, it changed. He set new 50 yard dash record to get away from me. One glance and he just started stepping away.
Stupid to get upset. But, I still did. Hostess who sat us was amazing so it wasn’t institutional. Still, hurts.
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License Plate Game
I still love playing the “license plate” game when we travel. Seeing which states and provinces are on the road the same time as us. I’ve been playing this since I was single digits. 🩷
On a week’s vacation to New Hampshire, Vermont and New York, we found 42 states, the District of Columbia, and 3 Canadian provinces: Ontario, Québec, and Nova Scotia. That’s a record for us, as far as states go (we saw 6 provinces one time!).
The eight states we didn’t see were North & South Dakota (both somewhat rare on the East Coast), New Mexico (surprised we didn’t see it), Hawaii (long shot on the mainland 🤣), Mississippi, Montana, Nebraska and Iowa (surprised here too).
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