Coming out and revealing your truth to your friends and others is a complicated process. As I’ve posted before, sometimes you want to shout it from the rooftops, because you’re happy and confident and feel yourself, maybe for the first time, at least on a conscious level. But, other times you want to keep it low-key, and maybe tell people only if it comes up, or your presentation invites questions. Others might never ask and you might never see them, so no need to reach out to everyone you’ve ever known. I guess it comes down to how you feel and who you would like tell.

I feel like I should let my close friends know sooner, come out to them before they ask. That’s what friends do, they share with each other. I had a few friends that were top of my list. I’ve already mentioned one awhile back. I had another and I told them straight out. They were surprised but very accepting. I was close to telling another friend recently but that didn’t pan out since we were video chatting and they weren’t alone on their end. But, I’ll tell them when I can. I have friends who I trust and think will accept me who I’ll be seeing in the next few months, so I’ll be able to do it in person.

But, the important thing is you don’t have to force it. There’s no script or checklist you have to follow. Each person will figure out their own way of sharing their truth with others who matter to them. For me, it shouldn’t be like, “hey, long time no chat, btw, I’m trans.” I think it needs to organically come up, otherwise you’re likely to shock or unsettle the person you’re telling.

Kind of a long post without a ton of content, but sometimes it’s nice to write things down and share them in case others stumble across it and find something of value, even if it’s just someone else is thinking about the same stuff.